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Birth Trauma and Loss

November 2, 2020

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Introducing Sherokee

Sherokee Ilse is a bereaved mother and parent advocate who also has authored 18 books and booklets, owns her own small publishing company (Wintergreen Press), and is an international expert and trainer in grief and loss. She is also a co-founder of Loss Doulas International and the Embrace Circle which works closely with the Genesis Clinics in Tucson to offer immediate one-on-one care and guidance at the time of miscarriage and other later baby losses. She lives in Tucson and trains medical providers, other birth and loss professionals, and is the founder and trainer of Baby Loss Family Advisors and Baby Loss Doulas. She runs two baby loss support groups in the Tucson area and consults internationally on the development of loss programs for communities, hospitals, clinics, and more. Ilse is a co-founders of the October Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month Campaign.

Some of her books and booklets include her first and most popular self-help book for parents and families, Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. She also helps families with miscarriage (Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream), prenatal decision-making (Precious Lives, Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-making Guide) and even teach childbirth educators how to speak of unexpected outcomes as a normal part of their class (Presenting Unexpected Outcomes: A Childbirth Educator’s Guide.) 

International Trainer

  • Presented thousands of workshops on childbearing loss/general bereavement to national
  • TRAINER regional and local groups in 40 states, Canada, Australia, NZ, UK, and Japan including:
  • Facilitator Hope and Healing Retreats, Tucson & Pennsylvania 201
  • Regional Perinatal Hospice conferences DE & Philadelphia 2016 and 2017
  • Int’l Stillbirth Conference, Baltimore, MD 2012
  • Int’l Stillbirth Alliance Conference, Wash. DC 2005, Japan 2006, England 2007, Sydney 2010
  • Sands, NZ national conference, 2010, 2016
  • Lamaze International, Orlando 2009, 2016
  • Int’l Childbirth Conference, Australia 2006/2010, England 2005
  • SIDS Int’l/Stillbirth Alliance Conference, Japan 2006
  • National Perinatal Bereavement Conferences 2013, 2008, 02, ’98, ’96, ’94, ’92, ’88, ‘86
  • National Parent Care Conferences 1995, ’94, ’93, ’89, ‘88
  • Int’l Compassionate Friends Conference, England 1994
  • National Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Conferences 2005, ‘00, ‘99, ‘94
  • Int’l Childbirth Conferences, 2000, ’99, ’98, ’93, ‘89
  • National Neonatal Nursing Conference 2003, 1991
  • Speaker at numerous regional, local conferences, hospitals, physicians’ grand rounds, communities,
  • and churches each year.
  • Guest lecturer at Residency Training programs, School of Medicine:
  • Vanderbilt, Yale, William Beaumont, U of MN, Visiting Instructor, Georgetown University


  • Consultant/speaker to hospital and perinatal organizations across the US including:
  • Georgetown University Hospital
  • Stanford University Hospital
  • Vanderbilt University Hospital
  • University of MN School of Nursing
  • Luther Northwestern Seminary, St. Paul, MN


  • Co-founder, the former Pregnancy and Infant Loss Center, Int’l non-profit
  • Director and/or Board Member for ten years 1982-1992
  • President, Wintergreen Press and Babies Remembered – 1982-present
  • Co-founder, Loss Doulas International and Loss Family Advisors 2011- present

Board Member

  • International Stillbirth Alliance, 2005-2009 ISPID 2010-2013
  • National Health Federation, 2007-2015


Coordinator, Coalition for Positive Outcomes in Pregnancy  


  • Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death, author, 1982/2008/2013/2017
  • (over 300,000+ copies in print)
  • The Prenatal Bombshell: Help and hope when continuing or ending a precious pregnancy after an abnormal diagnosis 2016
  • Couple Communication After a Baby Dies, co-author, 2008
  • Giving Care, Taking Care: Support for the Helpers, author, 1996
  • Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond, co-author, 1992
  • Precious Lives, Painful Choices, author, 1992, 2005
  • The Anguish of Loss, co-author, 1989/2009
  • Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream, co-author, 1985/2002/2013
  • Author of 10 other publications and many articles.


  • Guest on Oprah, Donohue, Home Show, and other national, regional, and local shows
  • Mother of two living children and three babies who died


  • BA Psychology and Sociology, Hamline University
  • Teaching Certificate, Hamline University
  • Masters work at the University of Minnesota, 1979-1981 

Personal Awards/Accomplishment

  • 2012 International Parent Advocate of the Year Recipient, Int’l Stillbirth Alliance
  • Publisher Who Made a Difference, Midwest Publisher Association, 1992
  • Who’s Who in Professional Executive Women, 1989
  • Coordinator, Nat’l Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Campaign Task Force
  • Leadership Minneapolis Award, 1985, Hamline Outstanding Alumni Award, 1985

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